Surviving Lauren Menzies - Navigating Loss in the Modern World




I am Lauren's mum.  When my daughter died my whole world changed.  This is my survival story.

As a family we are raising money in Lauren's name for Alder Hey Children's Hospital.  Visit her Justgiving page here


Amazing Alderhey 

I've not posted for a few days as I've been trying to write about Lauren's last 24 hours. But I've realised I don't want to do that....

Grief Cliches.....

I am aware that when I started this blog I had vague altruistic intent, not just to vent my emotions to anyone who would listen. I also...

More Memories

Well we made it through the weekend, with the help of pizza & wine from friends. We also received the NODA certificate from Lauren's...

Dancing Girl

This weekend would have been a hectic one, it's Lauren's dance show time. I wish all the best for all the dancers from her LCAD family...

Just another Process

The day Lauren went onto ECMO is abit of a blur. I know I messaged the Husband to tell him she had got worse in the night. Phone calls...

Sunday Blues

A couple of days ago I was collecting my son, or "The Boy" as Lauren always called him, from Chorley after a cinema trip with friends. ...

First Night Out

Before Lauren got sick I'd booked a table at a local restaurant for me and The Husband. The booking was for last night. When i got the...

The Gift of Friendship

And the gifts keep coming 💙 My friends are truly amazing. I guess I already knew that they were fantastic, but it takes a tragedy to...

The Introduction to ECMO

When I walked into Lauren's room on Tuesday 10th December 2019 everything changed. It was clear that Lauren had deteriorated in the night....

January 25th 2020

Yesterday I went back to work for the first time. I could have probably taken more time off, I've learned that people don't tend to say...

Luna - The New Puppy

I had a bad night last night. I was going to write about it today, but instead I thought I'd introduce you to the newest additional to...

School Visit

We went to Lauren's school last week. It's not a place we can ignore as it's the school her younger brother attends & where her younger...

Happy Monday

6 weeks ago today was the day we named Happy Monday. It was the last day that we had any real hope that Lauren would be okay. When Lauren...

Ronald McDonald House

When we got to Alderhey the nurses were rushing around trying to sort us out a room at The Ronald McDonald House, or Mac house as they...

Lauren's Just Giving Page

If anyone does any corporate fundraising, please can you keep Lauren's fundraising page in mind. We are hoping to do various events...

My Story

My 13 year old daughter, Lauren, died 5 weeks ago. It was unexpected, she was fit and healthy...and then she was dead. We are all in...

The Day She Fell Sick

I thought one of my first posts should be about what led to Lauren being admitted to Alderhey Children's hospital. It's what everyone...


Thanks for submitting!



Thanks for submitting!


Upcoming Events

  • 50km Ultra X Summer Trial Marathon
    Sat, 09 Jul
    Hebden Bridge
    09 Jul, 07:00
    Hebden Bridge, Hebden Bridge HX7, UK
    This is the big one! 50km Trail Marathon with 1550mtr Elevation - Chris must be off his rocker!
  • Epic Lakes Swim Derwent Water 3th July 2022
    03 Jul, 08:30
    Keswick, Keswick CA12, UK
    Another Epic Open Water Swim for Sarah and her friends and family.
  • Epic Events Southport Triathlon
    22 May, 19:00
    Southport, Southport, UK
    Chris will take part in this, his first Olympic length Triathlon: 1500m swim / 40k cycle / 10k run
  • Night time Summit of Snowdon
    Sun, 01 May
    01 May, 01:30 – 9:30
    Caernarfon, Snowdon, Caernarfon LL55 4UL, UK
    An Alder Hey Organised event to raise money for the Children's Hospital
  •  5k a day for Alder Hey    **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    10 Jul 2021, 19:00
    United Kingdom, United Kingdom
    From 11 July 2020 until 10th July 2021 Sarah will be walking/cycling 5k every day to raise money for Alderhey Childrens Hospital
  •  Wooler Trail Marathon   **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    14 Nov 2020, 08:00
    Northumberland National Park, 7 South Park, Hexham NE46 1BT, UK
    Wooler Trail Marathon is set in the heart of Northumberland National Park. This is a challenging Trail Marathon with just over 6000 feet of ascent,
  • Scarfell Pike Marathon  **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    16 Aug 2020, 08:00
    Scafell Pike, Scafell Pike, Seascale CA19 1TH, UK
    A trail marathon incorporating England's highest peak. Based from Keswick the route follows beautiful lakeshore trails, wooded valleys to spectacular high mountain trails, incorporating some of the most dramatic rock scenery in the Lake District.
  • Epic Lakes Swim Derwent Water 5th July  **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    05 Jul 2020, 12:00 – 14:00
    Crow Park, Keswick CA12 5DJ, UK
    The Derwent Epic Lakes Swim is event 2 of the Epic Lakes Open Water Swim Series. It takes place from Crow Park, in Keswick and forms part of the National Trust Regatta Weekend.
  • Badass Mucker Junior
    Sat, 20 Jun
    20 Jun 2020, 12:20
    Caton, Caton, Lancaster LA2, UK
    A 2.5km Course over 25 Obstacles, including muddy areas and a finishing slide into a plunge pool. The event is hi-energy fun that challenges all abilities through the age range and emphasises teamwork and lots of laughs.