Surviving Lauren Menzies - Navigating Loss in the Modern World




I am Lauren's mum.  When my daughter died my whole world changed.  This is my survival story.

As a family we are raising money in Lauren's name for Alder Hey Children's Hospital.  Visit her Justgiving page here


Walking with a Limp

The loss from grief does not get smaller, how could it. My daughter died at 13 years old, that will never change. What we do is learn...

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There is lots of talk about what grief looks like, how to deal with it, talk about it, how best to help. But the reality is that we are...

Other People

When Lauren died I remember feeling shocked. This probably sounds like an obvious emotion, but I was shocked because I thought this was...

"There are No Words."

After Lauren's death I joked that I was going to have this tattooed on my forehead, I heard it so many times. Please don't think that is...

Down the Rabbit Hole

Now December is over I can stop and breathe, look back over the month with a clearer view. December, for me, is all about getting...

Anniversary time

A friend asked recently why I hadn't written in a while and I said it was because I'd been busy, but that was only part of the reason. ...

And On ...and on

I write less, not because I have less to say, but I fear I may just repeat myself. We are approaching the end of my second year in grief....

Life through a Lens

I've tried to write on this topic for a while, but found it difficult. If it wasn't for the media we wouldn't have raised over £20k for...

Birthday - Round 2

The second birthday without Lauren. Another year older, another year since I've last seen her, hugged her, laughed with her. Despite all...

Swirly days

My head has been very swirly of late, unable to fixate on a single thought path for any length of time. Time is changing, home is...

One moment

Grief, it is such a little word but it can mean so much ...anger, sadness, despair, But recently I've discovered that you can add...

The Storm Before the Calm

Last week I cried on the way home from work. I haven't done that for a while. I used to cry every time I drove home, I think it's...

2 weeks today ...

This is Scarfell Pike, England's highest mountain. Two weeks today Chris will run a marathon, part of which will include running up &...

It could be you..

I was reading a news report the other day into the death of a teenager. I often find a compulsion to read other stories of horrific...


The run up to Lauren's 15th Birthday has been a busy one. Alongside the usual family events we've also been getting organised for our...


I now know that time is not a great healer, in fact it does fuck all. It just goes by, day by day, changing nothing. I change things The...

Two weeks to go!

In two weeks time I'll be walking my last #5kadayforalderhey. By then I'll have covered over 2500 km (or the distance from my house to...

Knowledge & Naivety

It's is often said that a little bit of knowledge can be a bad thing, and I guess the same can be said for the knowledge of grief. Last...


It feels like there are stories in the media every day regarding the deaths of children's and young adults. I don't know if I'm just...


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Upcoming Events

  • Epic Events Southport Triathlon
    22 May, 19:00
    Southport, Southport, UK
    Chris will take part in this, his first Olympic length Triathlon: 1500m swim / 40k cycle / 10k run
  • Epic Lakes Swim Derwent Water 3th July 2022
    03 Jul, 08:30
    Keswick, Keswick CA12, UK
    Another Epic Open Water Swim for Sarah and her friends and family.
  • 50km Ultra X Summer Trial Marathon
    Sat, 09 Jul
    Hebden Bridge
    09 Jul, 07:00
    Hebden Bridge, Hebden Bridge HX7, UK
    This is the big one! 50km Trail Marathon with 1550mtr Elevation - Chris must be off his rocker!
  • Night time Summit of Snowdon
    Sun, 01 May
    01 May, 01:30 – 9:30
    Caernarfon, Snowdon, Caernarfon LL55 4UL, UK
    An Alder Hey Organised event to raise money for the Children's Hospital
  •  5k a day for Alder Hey    **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    10 Jul 2021, 19:00
    United Kingdom, United Kingdom
    From 11 July 2020 until 10th July 2021 Sarah will be walking/cycling 5k every day to raise money for Alderhey Childrens Hospital
  •  Wooler Trail Marathon   **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    14 Nov 2020, 08:00
    Northumberland National Park, 7 South Park, Hexham NE46 1BT, UK
    Wooler Trail Marathon is set in the heart of Northumberland National Park. This is a challenging Trail Marathon with just over 6000 feet of ascent,
  • Scarfell Pike Marathon  **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    16 Aug 2020, 08:00
    Scafell Pike, Scafell Pike, Seascale CA19 1TH, UK
    A trail marathon incorporating England's highest peak. Based from Keswick the route follows beautiful lakeshore trails, wooded valleys to spectacular high mountain trails, incorporating some of the most dramatic rock scenery in the Lake District.
  • Epic Lakes Swim Derwent Water 5th July  **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    05 Jul 2020, 12:00 – 14:00
    Crow Park, Keswick CA12 5DJ, UK
    The Derwent Epic Lakes Swim is event 2 of the Epic Lakes Open Water Swim Series. It takes place from Crow Park, in Keswick and forms part of the National Trust Regatta Weekend.
  • Badass Mucker Junior
    Sat, 20 Jun
    20 Jun 2020, 12:20
    Caton, Caton, Lancaster LA2, UK
    A 2.5km Course over 25 Obstacles, including muddy areas and a finishing slide into a plunge pool. The event is hi-energy fun that challenges all abilities through the age range and emphasises teamwork and lots of laughs.