Surviving Lauren Menzies - Navigating Loss in the Modern World




I am Lauren's mum.  When my daughter died my whole world changed.  This is my survival story.

As a family we are raising money in Lauren's name for Alder Hey Children's Hospital.  Visit her Justgiving page here


It could be you..

I was reading a news report the other day into the death of a teenager. I often find a compulsion to read other stories of horrific...


The run up to Lauren's 15th Birthday has been a busy one. Alongside the usual family events we've also been getting organised for our...


I now know that time is not a great healer, in fact it does fuck all. It just goes by, day by day, changing nothing. I change things The...

Two weeks to go!

In two weeks time I'll be walking my last #5kadayforalderhey. By then I'll have covered over 2500 km (or the distance from my house to...

Knowledge & Naivety

It's is often said that a little bit of knowledge can be a bad thing, and I guess the same can be said for the knowledge of grief. Last...


It feels like there are stories in the media every day regarding the deaths of children's and young adults. I don't know if I'm just...


When Lauren was at Alderhey, hooked up to numerous beeping machines, we all experienced a strange situation. We knew it was Lauren lying...

Fundraising for Alderhey

I've been that busy walking (& more recently swimming) that I missed a landmark distance. I have now walked/riden/swum over 2000km for...

Oh Lucky You

I've been listening to a podcast recently by Simon Thomas. It's called Life Interrupted, and he interviews people who have had their...


As the country starts to slowly re-emerge from its cocoon of covid avoidance, I am having a swirling mixture of emotion. On one hand the...

Normalcy Bias and The Fear

Definition: Normalcy bias, is a cognitive bias which leads people to disbelieve or minimise threat warnings. People fail to comprehend...

Mothers Day #2

Friends have been asking how I'm feeling on the run up to Mothers Day. "I'm fine" tends to be the stock response. Which loosely...


When you lose a loved one time becomes something you think about a lot, the time you had and the time you've lost. You think about happy...

Hierarchy of Grief

The complete drudgery of Lockdown#3 has led to very little to write about. The return of homeschooling and home-workouts has lacked the...

Adjust your Gaze

Recently Keira Knightley has been in the press discussing her aversion to sex scenes specifically with male directors. One of the things...

Forward thinking

As we enter the second year I feel, certainly at this moment, that I am on more of a philosophical pathway. The first year was all...

Rituals of Remembrance

The anniversary of Lauren's funeral did not have the same impact on me as the anniversary of her death. When I look back on her funeral,...

Remembering One Year

On the build up to anniversaries, be it birthdays, mothers days, end of term, or any other date that elicits memories, I have usually...


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  • 50km Ultra X Summer Trial Marathon
    Sat, 09 Jul
    Hebden Bridge
    09 Jul, 07:00
    Hebden Bridge, Hebden Bridge HX7, UK
    This is the big one! 50km Trail Marathon with 1550mtr Elevation - Chris must be off his rocker!
  • Epic Lakes Swim Derwent Water 3th July 2022
    03 Jul, 08:30
    Keswick, Keswick CA12, UK
    Another Epic Open Water Swim for Sarah and her friends and family.
  • Epic Events Southport Triathlon
    22 May, 19:00
    Southport, Southport, UK
    Chris will take part in this, his first Olympic length Triathlon: 1500m swim / 40k cycle / 10k run
  • Night time Summit of Snowdon
    Sun, 01 May
    01 May, 01:30 – 9:30
    Caernarfon, Snowdon, Caernarfon LL55 4UL, UK
    An Alder Hey Organised event to raise money for the Children's Hospital
  •  5k a day for Alder Hey    **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    10 Jul 2021, 19:00
    United Kingdom, United Kingdom
    From 11 July 2020 until 10th July 2021 Sarah will be walking/cycling 5k every day to raise money for Alderhey Childrens Hospital
  •  Wooler Trail Marathon   **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    14 Nov 2020, 08:00
    Northumberland National Park, 7 South Park, Hexham NE46 1BT, UK
    Wooler Trail Marathon is set in the heart of Northumberland National Park. This is a challenging Trail Marathon with just over 6000 feet of ascent,
  • Scarfell Pike Marathon  **Completed - Thankyou for your Donations **
    16 Aug 2020, 08:00
    Scafell Pike, Scafell Pike, Seascale CA19 1TH, UK
    A trail marathon incorporating England's highest peak. Based from Keswick the route follows beautiful lakeshore trails, wooded valleys to spectacular high mountain trails, incorporating some of the most dramatic rock scenery in the Lake District.
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    05 Jul 2020, 12:00 – 14:00
    Crow Park, Keswick CA12 5DJ, UK
    The Derwent Epic Lakes Swim is event 2 of the Epic Lakes Open Water Swim Series. It takes place from Crow Park, in Keswick and forms part of the National Trust Regatta Weekend.
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    Sat, 20 Jun
    20 Jun 2020, 12:20
    Caton, Caton, Lancaster LA2, UK
    A 2.5km Course over 25 Obstacles, including muddy areas and a finishing slide into a plunge pool. The event is hi-energy fun that challenges all abilities through the age range and emphasises teamwork and lots of laughs.